Have you noticed that your spouse is somehow distant lately? Has intimacy between the both of you lessened, if not altogether disappeared? When was the last time you had a decent conversation about his or her day?
Many people whether married or in a relationship, have always dreaded the day when questions like the above begin to creep into their minds – simply because the answer always leads to yet another question much scarier than the above – “Is my spouse cheating on me?”
Infidelity is one of the most pressing issues that challenge many marriages today – and more often than not, such an act can lead to the utter destruction of what was once a beautiful and loving relationship.
Infidelity Then and Now
It is not something totally new as even in ancient times there are cases of one partner cheating on another as this report demonstrates. In face the act of infidelity has only been exacerbated by the increase in internet porn and online chat rooms. Even social media platforms have paved the way for this act to flourish.
In most cases, it is usually the husband or man who cheats in a relationship. Having said this, an interesting article from Huffington Post last year revealed that the number of females who cheat is on the rise.
Unfortunately extramarital affairs are not inclusive to one particular group. The act of unfaithfulness encompasses all marriages and relationships regardless of gender, race or sexual orientation. It is a disease that has spread throughout the globe, causing the death of many relationships all over the world.
Infidelity and Starting Fresh
Infidelity can lead to two different directions. As mentioned, it can be the end of everything, or it can be the start of a more loving relationship between couples. Like a tree, before new leaves can grow, old ones must wither and die – but this result to a more robust and healthier tree.
When spouses choose to be forgiving, which is something easier said than done, they are helping themselves move on. Scars never go away, but at least they heal.
When getting back from a devastating situation such as infidelity, it takes a lot of time, it takes a lot of courage to face the truth that you’ve been cheated on, and a lot more love than there was before.