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Anger Management

Anger is an intense emotional response experienced when personal boundaries are violated. Renowned anger management writer William DeFoore describes anger as a “pressure cooker” which pressure can only be applied against briefly before it explodes. The most common manifestation of anger is in facial expressions and body language however it also has behavioural and cognitive components. However, these behaviours are entirely under an individual’s control. By applying the following tips, you will learn how to manage your anger, so the situation does not escalate.   Think before you speak: Although it is easy to say and much harder to do, this is one of the best ways to avoid a meltdown. During an argument, we often say things we do not mean and later regret. By thinking before you speak, you can articulate your feelings more effectively and often get the required results.   Once calm, express your feelings: When you’re thinking clearly, express your needs and frustration in a productive and assertive way. Explain your concerns to the other party without hurting their feelings or trying to manipulate them. Expressing your feelings promotes open discussion, allowing all involved to have their feelings heard.   Take a timeout: Timeouts can be just as useful for adults as kids. Taking short breaks during stressful times of day will keep you calm and focused. A few moments of quiet reflection will help organise your thoughts, ensuring you are less likely to feel angry or frustrated.   Identify possible solutions: Rather than concentrating on what made you upset, try to solve the issue at hand. In other words, by locating and dealing with the source of the problem, it will no longer be a source of angst for […]

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Get your mind-set ready for 2015

So, 2014 has come to an end. Was it a good year for you? Did you accomplish the goals you wanted? Did you manage to stick to your New Year’s Resolution?   The majority of people will begin 2015 the way they began 2014, with promises to get fit, get a better job, save money, lose weight, etc. For many, those resolutions have been broken by the end of January. Surely there is a better way though?   How can we maintain the good intentions that we start with?   After all, our resolutions are clearly meant for our self-improvement. In order to fulfil these, we need to change our mindset. We need to build up our mental strength and energy to be able to make these positive changes. How we can start with and maintain that initial positivity to change? Through positive thinking.   The renowned the book, The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, has promoted the use of positive thinking to make life changing results. This is based on what is termed ‘The Law of Attraction’. The book has sold over 19 million copies world-wide which shows that the concept works.   The law of attraction can be defined as the belief that like attracts like. So through focusing positive or negative thoughts you can make positive or negative outcomes. This stems from the belief that people and their thoughts are made up from a pure energy. This energy attracts energy of the like. So, positive energy will attract positive, and negative energy will encourage only negative. In other words, if you want to achieve something, for example, you want to buy a new car, by using positive thinking you will acquire the means […]