Counselling

Why good people do bad things

In the age old story of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, the doctor drinks a potion which turns him into a monster. In real-life though this ‘potion’ does not exist, nor do we need it in order to commit unethical behaviour.   The Voice Within In certain scenarios, we are told to follow our gut instinct, listen to our inner voice and go with our beliefs, but what if our inner voice tells us to do something unacceptable? There are people who suffer such an experience and in some instances they could be suffering from multiple personality disorder which can be frightening.   It is known that many people have an inner voice and they can be both good or bad depending on what they’re telling us to do. Sometimes they critic us and our behaviour by telling us we’re not good enough, we’re too fat, we’re not smart enough etc. In other cases our inner voice does not only critic us but also tells us to do bad things. This could be a small misdemeanours like eating that second slice of cake through to bigger and unacceptable actions such as illegal activity, crime and socially unacceptable behaviour.   Turning the Negative Inner Voice Off There are cases when our negative inner voice tells or forces us to do bad things – things which we wouldn’t normally or otherwise do. In moments of weakness our inner voice wins and we just find ourselves doing those bad things, as if we have no control over our actions. A good example of this is an alcoholic in recovery. They know it’s wrong for them to drink, but some can fall of the band wagon a few times […]

Reasons for Low Motivation

Motivation is a strong and powerful driving force behind most (if not all) of our actions. When we are motivated, we are able to contribute more to our lives, work and relationships and can organise and accomplish more of our tasks and responsibilities efficiently.   It goes without saying that having low motivation can affect our performance and results in a negative way. Sure, you may still be able to get some work done or tick off those tasks on your to-do list, but deep down you know that the results would’ve been better if you hadn’t had done it half-heartedly.   There are many reasons why people suddenly lose their motivation to work or perform an activity and two of the most common ones are lack of energy and sickness.   Lack of Energy and Sickness We all know how difficult it can be to get out of bed and head to work or carry out daily tasks when we feel sick. Feeling weak under such conditions is pretty normal, even if it is just a simple case of cold or cough.   When we are sick, our body feels exhausted and drained, and this is because our body is using all of its energies in fighting off the infection that is causing the illness. That is why even if you want to get out of bed, your body tries to resist. There are people who say that it is a matter of mind over body, but that is not always the case. It can be hard to focus and concentrate on an activity when you’re constantly thinking about your aching head and body.   Improving Your Health and Energy Levels Some people are […]

Online Counselling Services in Australia

Process and Benefits When the internet first came along it brought along radical changes which made the traditional practices of many fields and industries adopt new processes. These days courses can be completed online instead of the traditional classroom, shopping can be done without leaving your home and even booking a doctor’s appointment can be scheduled online.   If this is now the case then why not apply this ‘online service’ method to the age old practice of counselling services?   Online counselling services here in Australia, is not at all new, having been in practice for more or less a decade now. The concept of counselling remains the same with the only changes being the mode of communication and how to effectively use the internet for online counselling.   There are three main methods of online counselling in Australia:   Emails – where the patient and counsellor correspond with each other by sending and receiving emails to address a specific area/issue.   Instant Messaging – where the patient and the counsellor can talk to each other through instant messaging software such as Skype.   Video Conferencing – where the patient and counsellor can engage in voice communication through video conversations and provide face-to-face interaction between the two parties.   The process is the same and the results still are achieved through working together closely. However by using online counselling services, it makes it easier for everyone to commit and removes the hassle of physically attending a session.   Why Online Counselling? Online counselling is a growing practice in Australia because it offers many benefits which distinguish from the traditional mode of counselling.   Convenient – Online counselling gives the patient access to counselling services […]

The Differences between verbal and non verbal communication

Communication is a regular part of our everyday lives. It is through communication that we are able to express our needs, wants, sentiments and every other emotion or message that we wish to share with others. However, communication is not always limited to what we say but also in how we say them. More often than not, what we don’t say often carries more weight than what we actually said.  An article from Social Mojo reveals that ‘verbal communication has only a 7% impact to your overall communication with 93% is coming from nonverbal communication.  Of this, 55% is body language and 38% tonality.’ Despite this both verbal and nonverbal communication have their own appropriate uses and applications.  Being aware of these will help us better understand the key differences between verbal communication and nonverbal communication.   Mode of Expression The most obvious difference between verbal and non verbal communication is how the messages are conveyed and received.  Verbal communication can be spoken or written and requires the use of words which are heard or read by the recipient of the message. Non-verbal communication is expressed through the speaker’s actions and behaviour in the communication process. These body language, body signals, and mannerism can be observed as follows: Sounds (laughing, snickering, sighing) Body contact (shaking hands, hugs) Facial expressions (smiling, frowning) Eye movements (winking, rolling) Eye Contact Head movements (shaking of the head, nodding) Hand movements (waving, clenched fists) Ways of talking (tone, intonation, pauses, stuttering) Posture (leaning forward, slouching) Uses and Applications Verbal communication is most effectively used in phone calls, text messages, chats and emails. Through verbal communication you are able to convey your message through words. Non-verbal communication is more effective in […]

Helping war soldiers integrate back into society

With the annual upcoming Anzac Day on 25th April, we wanted to cover a topic that is serious and effects many Australian families. How do war veterans integrate back into society after seeing what they’ve seen and experiencing what they have? Soldiers are some of the most dedicated and patriotic people one can ever meet. In every war they engage in, they put one foot in the grave – all in the name of service. For many of them, war has become a big part of their lives. What happens when the fighting stops? Or when their services are no longer required by the country they so faithfully serve? Can they simply toss away their guns and pack their bags and head on home? What happens when they reach home? These are just some of the many questions that trouble many soldiers when they are released from service.  As people who have literally risked life and limb for their motherland, the answers never come easy. Leaving the war zone doesn’t mean that the battle is finished. In fact, on the way home, many soldiers are thrown into another war – only this time it is not fought in the battlefield, but rather within. Many war veterans experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and guilt about making it out alive and this in combination with integration back into society can make them anxious. One of the many dilemmas of soldiers returning from battle is having to reintegrate back into society. The war, with its own unique brand of horror, has left horrendous scenarios engraved in the soldiers’ minds. This coupled with the fact that they are so used to living in a military camp, can make it […]

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