Anxiety

Lifestyle Management and Chasing the Dream

Lifestyle Management and Chasing the Dream   Chasing after your dreams is often easier said than done, especially for the majority of people. It’s easy to have a dream or a goal in life – but grabbing it and making it happen, now that’s a different story. Why is this so? Well, the reasons are varied, and two of the most common are detailed below.   Self-comparison Kills Your Dreams It may sound a bit overrated, but it is true – comparing yourself to other people can greatly harm your chances of achieving your dreams and aspirations. For one, when you compare yourself to a more successful person, you end up feeling sorry for yourself, and start to wallow in self-pity. In such a case, you spend time worrying about what you are doing wrong or what qualities and values you lack. You spend so much time worrying that you aren’t getting any actual work done – and thus be one step closer to your dreams.   By comparing yourself to other people, you are blinded by your weaknesses and forget to see and appreciate your strengths. You see yourself as incapable and forget about or ignore your past accomplishments.   Self-comparison, when done right, can be a powerful source of motivation, but otherwise, it can be incapacitating.   Going for the Wrong Dreams We all dream of different things. From big houses and flashy cars through to successful careers and businesses. The dream of being financially free applies to many people. By focusing on the material objects, we end up being materialistic and make it difficult on ourselves to achieve these dreams.   When we set our goals and dreams into these material things, […]

Depresion and Suicidal – How are they linked?

Depression and Suicidal Tendencies   The recent death of actor and comedian Robin Williams has put the spotlight back onto one of the world’s most fatal mental illnesses – depression. It’s sad to think that the comedian, who made audiences laugh until they cry, has now brought them tears of sorrow. More unfortunate though, was the fact that while he made those who were watching him truly happy, the comedian didn’t quite feel the same. He openly struggled with depression and was clearly not coping as well as everyone thought.   Depression: The Bigger Picture At present, depression is a growing global problem, as millions and millions of people from every corner of the world suffer in their everyday lives. Depression on its own is quite concerning enough, but it’s the results that can occur if not managed correctly.   Some people who suffer various degrees of depression can exhibit signs of excessive weight gain or weight loss due to poor diet, while others resort to drug and alcohol abuse. More frightening though, is that they develop suicidal tendencies that forces them to take their own lives, such as in the case of the said comedian.   Depression: The Lead Role Although depression is not the sole motivation for suicidal tendencies, it is definitely one of the most influencing factors that lead to it. Many studies have found time and again that suicidal tendencies are very high among the depressed people. These can include students who constantly fail academically, employees who lose their jobs, entrepreneurs who can’t get their business back on track, and many others. The one thing they all hold in common is they have hope that one day life will become better. […]

By |Wednesday, September 10, 2014|Anxiety, Counselling, Depression| Comments

Repressed Memory

Repression is a concept that is regularly argued within the psychology world. Whilst most psychologists believe this condition exists, the scientists have other thoughts.   The concept around repressed memory is that something shocking happens, and the mind pushes it into your unconscious as a way of coping. It can remain there for years or even decades and one day the memory can emerge into consciousness and be triggered by various elements or situations.   Commonly repression can happen when childhood trauma occurs such as sexual abuse that allegedly has been repressed for decades, until recovered in therapy. Following the discovery of repressed memory, can come Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.   As adults, we would rather forget traumatic experiences, and whilst we can forget the small details, we still retain the emotions that come with those types of experiences. As a child though, it’s natural to store fragmented memories of events. Many psychotherapists also believe that a high level of all psychological disorders is due to repressed memories of childhood events, trauma and abuse.   Repressed memory is also commonly known as Memory Blanks. People can experience memory blanks of a year or several years during childhood. Now before we jump to conclusions, just because someone doesn’t remember every single detail about their childhood, this doesn’t necessarily mean they are experiencing memory blanks or repression. However, if you are also experiencing problem relationships, sexual dysfunction, panic attacks, phobias, suicide attempts or other issues around self-worth then it’s probably worth having a chat with someone.   Your memory is a funny instrument and works differently to organs that are physical such as the brain. A persons memory has been described in the past as a filing […]

Helping war soldiers integrate back into society

With the annual upcoming Anzac Day on 25th April, we wanted to cover a topic that is serious and effects many Australian families. How do war veterans integrate back into society after seeing what they’ve seen and experiencing what they have? Soldiers are some of the most dedicated and patriotic people one can ever meet. In every war they engage in, they put one foot in the grave – all in the name of service. For many of them, war has become a big part of their lives. What happens when the fighting stops? Or when their services are no longer required by the country they so faithfully serve? Can they simply toss away their guns and pack their bags and head on home? What happens when they reach home? These are just some of the many questions that trouble many soldiers when they are released from service.  As people who have literally risked life and limb for their motherland, the answers never come easy. Leaving the war zone doesn’t mean that the battle is finished. In fact, on the way home, many soldiers are thrown into another war – only this time it is not fought in the battlefield, but rather within. Many war veterans experience Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and guilt about making it out alive and this in combination with integration back into society can make them anxious. One of the many dilemmas of soldiers returning from battle is having to reintegrate back into society. The war, with its own unique brand of horror, has left horrendous scenarios engraved in the soldiers’ minds. This coupled with the fact that they are so used to living in a military camp, can make it […]

By |Thursday, April 24, 2014|Anxiety, Counselling, General| Comments

Long Term Affects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Long Term Affects of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder When people experience or witness a traumatic event, and are unable to let go or move on, they are putting themselves at risk to developing Post Traumatic Disorder (PTSD). In brief, PTSD is a psychiatric disorder that results from traumatic experiences, which is sometimes relived by the patient though flashbacks and nightmares.  It can also be when triggered by certain situations e.g. a soldier fresh from the war may remember the gunfights and bombings when they hear loud banging doors. Causes of Post Traumatic Disorder Trauma and an individual’s inability move on from it, is the common cause of PTSD. Traumatic experiences often involve life-threatening situations or events that cause intense fear in the individual such as the following:   Extremely severe accidents like car crash, plane crash, etc. Frightening natural phenomena like hurricanes, typhoons, earthquakes, etc. Being a victim of torture or other crimes Exposure to war and conflict Physical, mental, and emotional abuse Loss and grief is the second cause of PTSD. When an individual grieves over the loss of someone or something they can consider to be very important, it can cause a flood or rush of emotions.  This often causes strain and stress on the individual and if not dealt with in the right way can lead to long term affects.  The following situations, particularly when unexpected and sudden, can put a serious amount stress to the individual which can result in PTSD:   Death of a family member, a friend, or any one they love and consider important Divorce or end of a relationship Being fired from a job that they are passionate about Loss of a dear pet The Long-term Effects […]