Recalibrate your life

You know that feeling of wanting to bash your head against the wall at work? It’s a feeling that we all experience from time to time. A problem arises; a solution is argued over and eventually found and then you move on. Only, what if you cannot find a solution? What if you become bogged down in the same arguments going round and round, and you are no further from moving forward.   Outside of work, if an issue were preventing you from living your life then you would consider seeing a counsellor to help you re-evaluate, and gain a new perspective. Inside the world of work, you can do the same thing. You can recalibrate your life.   What is recalibration? Recalibration is the process of getting you to understand that there are many different points of view. If you are stuck in a routine, you only ever see enough to get through the day. Recalibration is about getting you to recognise your limitations and acknowledging that there are different interpretations of the same reality. It is not a simple thing to acquire, and you cannot achieve it instantly, but there are exercises you can do to train your brain.   Firstly, remember the saying ‘Look before you leap’? Take a moment before you react to something. If you are in an argument or discussion then actively wait before you respond. It is not just about stopping you from saying something in the heat of the moment, but waiting for what that person has said to sink in before you react.   Secondly, reassess the way you respond to mundane every-day situations. For example, the next time someone irritates you, think about why they […]

Get your mind-set ready for 2015

So, 2014 has come to an end. Was it a good year for you? Did you accomplish the goals you wanted? Did you manage to stick to your New Year’s Resolution?   The majority of people will begin 2015 the way they began 2014, with promises to get fit, get a better job, save money, lose weight, etc. For many, those resolutions have been broken by the end of January. Surely there is a better way though?   How can we maintain the good intentions that we start with?   After all, our resolutions are clearly meant for our self-improvement. In order to fulfil these, we need to change our mindset. We need to build up our mental strength and energy to be able to make these positive changes. How we can start with and maintain that initial positivity to change? Through positive thinking.   The renowned the book, The Secret, by Rhonda Byrne, has promoted the use of positive thinking to make life changing results. This is based on what is termed ‘The Law of Attraction’. The book has sold over 19 million copies world-wide which shows that the concept works.   The law of attraction can be defined as the belief that like attracts like. So through focusing positive or negative thoughts you can make positive or negative outcomes. This stems from the belief that people and their thoughts are made up from a pure energy. This energy attracts energy of the like. So, positive energy will attract positive, and negative energy will encourage only negative. In other words, if you want to achieve something, for example, you want to buy a new car, by using positive thinking you will acquire the means […]

Manage your stress this Christmas

Christmas is an odd time of year. It can be a wonderful, festive and joyful time; when everyone is smiling and happy. Or, it can turn people into raging, stressful, irrational beings.   There is so much to do considering the happy, festive season don’t create itself. Usually, someone has spent hours trudging through packed shops, fighting over the last turkey, and undertake the task of cooking Christmas dinner. Also does anyone like sitting for hours on end writing Christmas cards to people you haven’t seen in 20 years? Well, let’s break with tradition this year, let’s look at 5 tips to combat stress levels over the holiday period.   Get everyone involved – You are not the only one capable of doing Christmas tasks in the household, so start laying down the law and easing your work load. Bribe the kids to write out Christmas cards, with 20cents for every card they write neatly. Give family members food to bring on the day if you’re hosting Christmas. Delegate to those involved to make the process easier.   Meditate- Slow down, relax, breathe deeply. Have a period each day when you sit in silence, with a few scented candles, and do some breathing exercises. By stopping the tension from over-flowing, you are preventing yourself from making those bad errors in judgement that so often occur with anger and high-stress levels. Don’t let the bad stuff get to you. So what if your neighbours crashed your Christmas and had too much to drink. We’ll be laughing about it this time next year.   Manage Expectations – This means for you and others. Setting yourself up to create the perfect Christmas and it not quite going to […]

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Listening To Your Gut Instincts

Making a decision, any kind of important decision, can sometimes be a long, difficult process. With this is mind, have you ever stopped and analysed how you arrive at a decision? What was the deciding factor? Did you listen to intellectual reason? Did you decide based on you emotionally thought to be right? Or, did you just have a hunch, an intuition, about what to do? Maybe it was a combination of all three?   Whatever the outcome, these are the three ways (or ‘voices’) in which our consciousness makes decisions;   Head (intellectually) Heart (emotionally) Gut (instinctively)   Obviously, how you react determines the outcome, so how do you know which ‘voice’ to follow? I guess it very much depends on the question.   Head Now there are some decisions which are quite obviously ruled by the head. Example, if you are trying to lose weight and eat healthy, and at lunch you have the decision between a salad and a burger. You may emotionally crave the burger, but you know that you should have the salad. This is based on the fact that a salad is healthier than a burger, but a burger is tastier than a salad. Following your heart instead of your head will lead to a bad decision. Listening to you head, involves rationality, reason and intelligence. People who follow their head, and disregard their heart and gut feelings, are often perceived as cold, calculating or analytical. You might even argue that ‘head’ people can be superficially and not as good at relating emotionally.   Heart You might be one of those people, or at least know someone, who repeatedly goes for the wrong guy/ girl. They know that this […]

Lifestyle Management and Chasing the Dream

Lifestyle Management and Chasing the Dream   Chasing after your dreams is often easier said than done, especially for the majority of people. It’s easy to have a dream or a goal in life – but grabbing it and making it happen, now that’s a different story. Why is this so? Well, the reasons are varied, and two of the most common are detailed below.   Self-comparison Kills Your Dreams It may sound a bit overrated, but it is true – comparing yourself to other people can greatly harm your chances of achieving your dreams and aspirations. For one, when you compare yourself to a more successful person, you end up feeling sorry for yourself, and start to wallow in self-pity. In such a case, you spend time worrying about what you are doing wrong or what qualities and values you lack. You spend so much time worrying that you aren’t getting any actual work done – and thus be one step closer to your dreams.   By comparing yourself to other people, you are blinded by your weaknesses and forget to see and appreciate your strengths. You see yourself as incapable and forget about or ignore your past accomplishments.   Self-comparison, when done right, can be a powerful source of motivation, but otherwise, it can be incapacitating.   Going for the Wrong Dreams We all dream of different things. From big houses and flashy cars through to successful careers and businesses. The dream of being financially free applies to many people. By focusing on the material objects, we end up being materialistic and make it difficult on ourselves to achieve these dreams.   When we set our goals and dreams into these material things, […]