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Pre-trial Counselling

Many of us, have no experience of the courtroom. Courtrooms are worlds of their own, in that they have processes and language that are second nature to those who regularly inhabit this world, although as incomprehensible to those of us who don’t. For those who are a victim or are a witness giving evidence in a trial, the court can be quite an emotionally distressing experience. For example, the process of a cross-examination, where the opposing lawyer attempts to discredit the witness, can be very intimidating. Lawyers do not care if they intimidate you or come across aggressive; they simply want to find a weakness and create uncertainty for the jury to doubt the validity of the witness’s testimony. Unfortunately, there is no support system offered by the courts to help deal with the rigours of going to court. However, there are external services available. Alegna Solutions has a pre-trial counselling service to help improve self-esteem and self-confidence, as well as prepare victims and witnesses for the experience of court. Pre-trial counselling is a way of preparing. It covers basic things like the roles of the different people within the court and basic information about legal processes, so you are not walking in blind. Courts can be confusing places although if you go into them with a little knowledge it can be much less daunting. Pre-trial counselling will help make sense of the process and be aware of what is expected of you as a witness, and what to expect as a witness. Alegna solutions recommend pre-trial counselling especially for people, who are vulnerable, intimidated or who have experienced trauma. In the UK, the Crown Prosecution Service is reviewing its stance towards pre-trial counselling in […]

Coping with the Sudden Death of a Loved One

After experiencing the sudden death of a loved one, it can seem impossible to feel remotely human during the grieving process. Grief impacts every facet of one’s personal life; including your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, physical and mental health. It can feel as though there is a storm raging around you no one else is affected by. Rest assured you’re not alone. Everyone’s experience with grief is unique; it is a process, not an event. Although it seems cliché, everyone does grieve differently. Your unique experience depends on many factors, including: Your relationship with the deceased Your spiritual beliefs Cultural practices Level of support from family and friends, and; Associated stressors i.e. financial hardship, relationship breakdown, etc. When impacted by the sudden death of a loved one, it is important to remember there is no right or wrong way to grieve. You may react in any number of ways, including anger, feeling anxious, panic, change in beliefs, depression, sleep disturbances and inability to cope, among others. While reactions to grief are unique to the individual, grieving styles tend to fall into two broad styles. Your ‘grief style’ depends on your personality; however, many people experience a combination of both. INTUITIVE: The grieving person concentrates on the emotional aspects of their loss and seeks out social support to process their feelings INSTRUMENTAL: The grieving person focuses on the cognitive aspects of their loss. Grief manifests itself by dealing with the practical issues surrounding the loss i.e. handling funeral arrangements, legal issues, etc. Instrumental is a solitary style of grief in which the individual processes his or her feelings alone. While in the throes of grief, it may seem impossible to cope. The truth is, there are […]

Spirituality – How Faith Helps you cope with Adversity

At some time, we will all face adversity, so why is it that some fall apart while others seem to flourish amid difficult circumstances? The answer is faith. Far beyond a tradition you observe, faith is the cornerstone of your life, a framework that guides your every action. Therefore, when facing adversity, faith can bring you through it intact. So, what is it about faith that changes both your outlook on and the outcome of your circumstances? Read on to find out. Stress is something everyone is familiar with. Stress is that unwelcome visitor which wreaks havoc on your body, mind and spirit. Without appropriate coping mechanisms, stress causes physical (stomach pain, headaches, nausea, etc.) and psychological (anxiety, fear, panic, etc.) harm. Although you can’t always control our physical circumstances, faith provides reassurance that you aren’t going through life alone. Faith is a spiritual foundation through which your perspective toward life forms. It urges you to look beyond your immediate existence for your true purpose and how you may serve the world with it. On a practical level, faith gives you something to rely on in trying times. It is the single constant in a life that can seem unpredictable. Whichever form your faith takes, mounting evidence suggests that people with a spiritual side are better equipped to cope with stress. Through direct and indirect influence, faith can help you cope with illness and devastation in a productive manner. Meaning and Purpose – “Everything happens for a reason.” While it may seem cliché, it often proves true for those with faith. An entrenched belief system ensures you are better able to understand the complex issues of life and your purpose in it and extends to […]

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Anger Management

Anger is an intense emotional response experienced when personal boundaries are violated. Renowned anger management writer William DeFoore describes anger as a “pressure cooker” which pressure can only be applied against briefly before it explodes. The most common manifestation of anger is in facial expressions and body language however it also has behavioural and cognitive components. However, these behaviours are entirely under an individual’s control. By applying the following tips, you will learn how to manage your anger, so the situation does not escalate.   Think before you speak: Although it is easy to say and much harder to do, this is one of the best ways to avoid a meltdown. During an argument, we often say things we do not mean and later regret. By thinking before you speak, you can articulate your feelings more effectively and often get the required results.   Once calm, express your feelings: When you’re thinking clearly, express your needs and frustration in a productive and assertive way. Explain your concerns to the other party without hurting their feelings or trying to manipulate them. Expressing your feelings promotes open discussion, allowing all involved to have their feelings heard.   Take a timeout: Timeouts can be just as useful for adults as kids. Taking short breaks during stressful times of day will keep you calm and focused. A few moments of quiet reflection will help organise your thoughts, ensuring you are less likely to feel angry or frustrated.   Identify possible solutions: Rather than concentrating on what made you upset, try to solve the issue at hand. In other words, by locating and dealing with the source of the problem, it will no longer be a source of angst for […]

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Health and Diet – Energise your life

Fatigued? Lethargic? With life being so busy, it’s no wonder that we feel tired all the time and think of life as a gruelling struggle. Work, studies, chores and life’s challenges, in general, all these can easily sap the energy and optimism out of a person.   Instead of simply succumbing to the train of thought that such is the standard way of living nowadays and turning yourself into a walking zombie, why not try to incorporate the tips below. They will help reinvigorate yourself and energise your life.   Eat a Healthy Breakfast Studies show that skipping breakfast is never a good way to start your day. By doing so, you are depriving your body of much-needed nutrition after hours of fasting while you sleep, which then leaves you hungry and lacking in energy. In addition, opt for healthier food choices like cereals or oats since their fibre content will leave you feeling full longer and reduce the chances of you binging on sugary and unhealthy snacks later in the day.   Find Time to Exercise A daily exercise regimen can do wonders for the body. Not only will it make your body look a lot leaner and healthier, but it helps promote better blood and oxygen circulation throughout your body and your brain. Exercise makes you stronger, more alert, and more focused. Even short exercises, such as those that you can do at the office like stationary jogging or stretching can help temporarily boost your energy levels whenever you start feeling sluggish while in the middle of doing work.   Indulge in Water Keeping yourself hydrated all day is one sure fire way of upping your energy levels. Remember that your body and […]

By |Thursday, March 5, 2015|General, Happiness| Comments